OK, here's the: Idiots guide to fitting headlight relays!
I use New Era brand relays these are made in Japan and are very reliable but Hella, Bosch and Ingram make good relays too, avoid the el-cheapo stuff and Lucas!
Hella Australia has an excellent site with heaps of good imfo:
http://db.hella.com.au/container.html
I am going to refer to various pages of their catalogue to provide the diagrams to help explain. so for the purpose of this exercise we will use Hella relays, but the site should be the same for other brands.
First select the relays you wish to use they come in different current carrying capacities so if in doubt go for the higher capacity unit.
A pair of 30 amp relays should do the trick. 1 relay for high beam the other for low.
So here is the Hella model 3082:
You will need to mount your relays close to the lights so as to simplify the wiring. Intercept the wiring loom close to the each light
For high beam the blue/white wire from the dip switch should go to terminal #86, the terminal #85 should go to ground, a power supply from the battery + terminal should go to terminal #30 of the relay ( some relays have an in built fuse in this case you will need a fuse or circuit breaker between the battery + and the #30 terminal) and you should run a pair of wires from the 2 #87 terminals to the high beam terminals of the headlight globes.
For the low beam do the same except instead of the blue/white wire from the switch connect the blue/red wire from the dip switch to the #89 terminal and the wires from the #87 terminals should be connected one for each side to the low beam terminals of the headlight globes. The remaining head light globe terminal should go to ground.
Note some cars have blue/white on one side and blue/grey on the other for high beam and blue/red and blue/pink for low beam.
You could use a duel relay such as Hella model 3051:
Instructions:
http://db.hella.com.au/downloads/911-350-23.pdf
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